Vulnerability is having the courage to show up and be seen. Baring your souls without any guarantees- Brené Brown
Last Tuesday I invested almost 2 hours listening to Dr Brené Brown author of Daring Greatly talking on Oprah’s Life Class on Vulnerability. I was hooked I took pages of notes, tweeted out the many gems that came from both Brené and Oprah’s mouths.
When Brené said : “If you are not in the arena getting you butt kicked I am not interested” Those words stopped me and reflected on my own holding back, those little niggly thoughts it’s not ready, I am not enough, which has led me to be sitting on too many incompletions!
I was uplifted and inspired, I also knew that it was time for me to embrace my own vulnerability and stop thinking it’s:
Not ready, not good enough, how do I know people will buy it, want it , need it, it hasn’t worked in the past! Why will now be any different?
I have so many things that I have started, half launched! I just realised that even my new Healing Art does not have a link here! It’s time to be brave, really show up and be seen and share my message and ASK for help!
Brené shared what she says are the 4 myths of vulnerability
1. Vulnerability is weakness
2. I don’t do vulnerability
3. Vulnerability is letting it all hangout
4. We can go it all alone!
Here are some of the gems I captured
- Vulnerability is the birthplace of trust, engagement and innovation
- Shame needs secrecy silence & judgment to grow; once YOU speak it an it receives empathy, it goes away.
- Everything works out in the end, if it hasn’t worked out, it’s not the end”
- Shame is such a stresser. It kills quicker than cancer
- “When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun and fear is in the backseat.”
- When you can not accept and ask for help without self judgement, you are always doing so with judgement!
- Shame corrodes our ability to trust other people because it corrodes our ability to trust ourselves.
- Being afraid and courageous in the same moment: That’s what daring greatly is about
- Vulnerability is having the courage to show up an be seen
- We can’t be brave when we are not vulnerable
- You can’t have true courage unless you open yourself up to vulnerability
- Vulnerability is a cornerstone of confidence
- Write your story on the arena wall
- Talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love
- Ride the wave and stay in the flow.
- Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we experience.
- Vulnerability is being afraid and courageous in the same moment:
- Life is about showing up and being seen.
- We are are hardwired for connection
- If you don’t know how you do vulnerability, vulnerability is doing you
- When we open our heart space we see ourselves and the world as vulnerable and authentic
- We share with people who’ve EARNED the right to hear our story.
- Vulnerability is a practice, it’s not something you check off a list, you keep showing up.
The Ted Talk on Vulnerability that Brené gave back in 2010 that really allowed her to be seen and has had over 1 million views.
with love and gratitude
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